FAQ – My child is trained at home but is still having accidents at nursery. Why is this happening?

It is not unusual for children to be fully trained at home but to pick them up from nursey only to be greeted with a bag of soggy clothes after an accident has occurred.


It’s not the end of the world, and nurseries are used to dealing with this, but it is frustrating when you know they are capable of staying dry away from home.  The reasons this could be happening are that children may get absorbed in play at nursery and so can forget to listen to their body’s signs that they need to go to the toilet.  In addition, they may feel self conscious asking the teacher to go, or to leave the room in front of all the others.  Some children would rather only go to toilets that they are very familiar with.  Public toilets are quite different to our bathrooms at home and can appear quite unfriendly with their locking cubicles and noisy hand dryers.


Here are a few of our top tips to help encourage children to be happy to use the toilets at nursery and to avoid accidents while children are there.


Explain what’s expected


Talk to your child about the rules of going to the toilet at nursery.  If you are unsure, ask the teachers to explain if they need to ask permission to go and who to ask. Some nurseries encourage using hand gestures such as making a ‘T’ with your hands.  It can be down to individual teachers to decide the rules, so it’s best to ask.


Show them where the toilets are


If possible point the toilets out when you go into nursery and have a look at them together to put your child’s mind at rest that they are a safe place and that there are no tricky locks on doors or noisy hand dryers.


Talk to the teacher


If you think there is a risk of accidents, or have any concerns, explain this to the teacher and agree how best to manage this.


Dress them in clothes that are easy to manage


Try to avoid any fiddly buttons that could slow your child down when trying to get undressed in the toilet.



Take a spare change of clothes


If you are worried about accidents, pack a spare set of clothes in your child’s bag.  Using a Dry Like Me pad in your child’s pants to catch any accidents can help protect clothing and stop your child feeling self-conscious if an accident occurs.



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